Now it's Monday evening and Lisa and I just watched Jon & Kate's big announcement. In case you are unaware, try opening up your Facebook once in awhile, or watch the entertainment portion of the evening news anywhere, and you'll hear about it. The basic story of this reality show is around this couple, Jon and Kate, who at one time were happily married with twins. Then they got pregnant again, with sextuplets! That's six, for those of you from Cougar. So for the last few years, cameras have been in their lives, following their story and watching the chaos and joy unfold. They have become the darlings of family proponents and Christians alike, as they have held to their Christian roots and made church appearances.
But tonight, as we were celebrating 18 years, these two announce that they filed for divorce after 10 years.
I'm sad for them, but mostly for the kids. Jon, who will be referred to as the Idiot from here onward, said some dumb things on the show. The Idiot said he was doing this to be true, and to do what's best for him and the kids. Hey Idiot, your kids will for the rest of their lives say and feel that the truest thing and best thing for them would have been if you would have worked it out and stayed married to mom. He felt overwhelmed.
I get the overwhelmed thing, but I never have had a thought that I should walk away. I don't get my way all the time, but that's what love is: giving and doing what is best for the other person. I would love to see a reality show scene where the one on one interview goes something like this: "Yeah, well, I guess I just have to do what's best for her. I guess I had my teen years to find myself, so I don't have to go looking for it now. I took a vow, so I'll just have to be true to that."
I heard two great lines in the midst of this last crazy weekend that really will stay with me on into the future. The first was from Pastor Bob during his message to Fathers. "Sometimes as men, it just doesn't matter what you feel. You have a duty to do." Amen. The second nugget of relationship gold came in the hour-and-a-half of calm when we were watching Marly and Me, when they were discussing the reason for the longevity of their relationship. "Mend it. Don't end it." Amen, again.
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"Make what is important to your spouse, important to you."
These are wise words, that I do my best to be accountable to, given to my husband and me by a wise man: Pastor Dave Schaff.
Marriage is work, the harder you work on it, the better the fruit of your labor becomes! Jon & Kate lost this somewhere, and I am saddened. I do however have great faith that God will use this to his Glory.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the drama! I appreciate you!
Winde Chavez
Mom of 6
Wife to 1 (Juan)
hey Matt! Great Post and I agree!!!
Happy Anniversary again to you and Lisa. We are hitting 17 years this October
Jon actually wasn't the one who filed for divorce. It was Kate. :( He said that he was too passive in their marriage and let her wear the pants. When he decided to put them back on she told him that was becoming a different person...Probably just not letting her talk to him the way she always has. I'm not trying to be weird or anything but I honestly think it was mostly Kate's fault. Who treats their husband that way? Jon said he was deeply saddened that she had filed for divorce. Sounded like he wanted to work it out.
I'm not saying that either of them are right. Both of them should consider that they made a commitment to each other before God, not to their children. What they need is some marriage counseling and a little alone time!
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